I am trying to practice using my flash some more. I use manual settings, and the exposure meter seems to be pretty worthless when using a flash.
It seems that you've not configured your camera and flash properly. To identify the problem we need all information about your set-up (e.g. camera / flash configuration, where flash is located, sample photos).
The simplest thing you could do with your flash at home is to set your camera to Manual mode and set shutter speed / aperture / ISO to get -2 value in your exposure. Then switch your flash to E-TTL mode and turn your flash head to look at your ceiling.

That's all for the set-up, make photos:

You can read about this technique
here.
Here's a good example where external flash was used:

It was triggered wirelessly and some kind of diffuser was set in front of the flash head.
P.S. Color temperature is not something you can easily control on your camera, because your flash outputs light of different temperature compared to ambient light. If your problem is localized in color, you should think about color gels for your flash.