I tend to agree with private, and would also recommend hiring two different people. I have worked with a ton of videographers and those who specialize in video tend to produce better videos (from my experience). Similarly, we shoot a ton of weddings and are often asked if we can also do video. My answer is always the same, we have the equipment for it, but until we can provide a top-notch product, I will not be including video as one of our options. I think some simply see the dollar signs and jump into both fields because they can, which I find to be unfortunate. All of that being said, however, St. Paul may have someone who can do both, and do them well.
I would also reflect what Private said about the amount of time needed. Though I'm sure you are aware of the amount of time it takes, the phrasing could potentially be a turn off for the photographer/videographer, but she can ask for 5-6 hours of coverage without stepping on toes.
Regarding the meeting, I have had 64 meetings with potential wedding clients and have booked 61 of them. I love meetings. Often times, the folks I am meeting with will not have any questions for me, which is okay. I will then ask them more about their day and help bounce possible ideas necessary to make their day spectacular. Some of the things she may want to consider;
Is she having a first glance?
Is she having a 'grand exit'? if so, what time?
Would she rather have one or two photographers?
Will she receive a print release? What size can she print?
How many photos will they edit for her?
Can she view any FULL galleries?
If she does have to order prints over a certain size through them, how much are they?
How long until she receives her images back?
How are their reviews from TheKnot, Wedding Wire, Facebook, etc?
What gear will they shoot with?
Is this their full time occupation?
For videos and photos alike, I would recommend she take the time to watch a ton of videos from a particular company, if she likes their style then go with them. Similarly, with photos, look into their full galleries and look to see if she likes the style and coverage of their images.
Lastly, I fly around for weddings and Tulsa to St. Paul is less than a $500 fare when I checked a random date in March... there is always the option to fly someone in as well.