First of all I'm a portrait photographer and I've got experience, I know what's composition and all the sweet things that we care about. Second I didn't sign any contract with him and he told me that I could post the photos on my website. I went there to understand how weddings work and I wasn't hired as an assistant (but he told me you are coming as an assistant).
During the wedding the bride was a bit annoyed about the posing shots that he was trying to create and she was asking for more candid shots. I'm not saying I'm better than the pro and I will never say that, I don't even want to undermine him. I sent him about 40 photos the day after the wedding and he called me up telling me that he was impressed for my first wedding experience. At the end of this I just would like to be rewarded for this little success because I'm not making a living out of it.
By the way I don't like the way the pros use their assistants, people who make a living out of it should pay for their help. It is just fair. Sometimes when I have to do paid jobs I ask a friend to come along and I give him/her some money even if it's a $200 job.
ok, I'll bite on this one too. Ok, you were not hired and did not sign a contract - fine, but, as you stated - he saw you as his assistant. He did not have to allow you on the site, and given the situation, it doesn't sound like the client added the second shooter either so there was zero compensation for you. The main shooter was being nice, letting you come along to learn and build a portfolio - not to undermine sales.
The Primary shooter is at fault here too because he should have been more clear ( though it does sound like he tried to be, "Second I didn't sign any contract with him and he told me that I could post the photos on my website."
That's your compensation right there. It's the good old adage, give a man a fish and he eats well that night - teach that man to fish and he eats well for a lifetime. You seem to be blinded by the sentiments of this bride, and want that one nice meal at the expense of the future. These images should be like a downpayment - the first for your portfolio.
Mind you ---- Brides are finicky beasts!!!!! So this one loves your work, what about the next, and the next, and the next? If you have a next! One wedding is not enough to book a season, especially one where you were a second shooter. this bride liked candids - good - that's fine and yeah, that's one of the reasons why you were there, to handle that side of shooting so the main shooter can focus on posing and managing the clock! Some Brides don't give a rats ass about candids though. some don't even care about the images at all. so, keep that in mind, and --- if you at all believe in karma, well then I hope you remember this day when you have an assistant taking your sales!
As to "By the way I don't like the way the pros use their assistants, people who make a living out of it should pay for their help. It is just fair. Sometimes when I have to do paid jobs I ask a friend to come along and I give him/her some money even if it's a $200 job." If he did things you don't like, well that's the way the cookie crumbles. Learn from that and don't treat your seconds and assistants in the same way. But also, the going rate here for second shooting is closer to $100-500 depending on all the factors. Which, isn't bad at all when you think about it. I generally pay out $250 - which for 8 hours or so is like $31 an hour. that's not bad at all. If your allowed to use the images on your portfolio, yeah you may spend time on them but that's your time, your investment. $31 an hour to be there for 8 hours and snap 1000 or so photos...LOL...I like second shooting now because I have no intention of outdoing the main shooter. Or rather, not on that shoot! I will do my part, but, I will save the outdoing for my own weddings!....
Either way man, let your ego go. Call the primary guy and talk to him.