manfrotto fluid heads are not real fluid heads
if you're spending heavy on a tripod, either go for the sachtler ace, or, if that feels too expensive get a fancier/e-image video tripod (I have the 7060 and I think it's great)
http://www.dvxuser.com/V6/showthread.php?266905-500-Tripod-suggestions-for-60dabout lenses: for video, you don't need (or want) autofocus, so consider some samyang primes:
* the 85mm f/1.4 is a non-brainer: really, really cheap, and much closer to the canon-L or the zeiss than to the cheap canon non-L (specifically: the samyang has great bokeh, which is what you want on a portrait lens)
* the 35mm f/1.4 is great for full frame: impressive lens, even sharper than its canon-L and zeiss counterparts (it's not so great for APS-C, because bokeh is not nice, but for a 35mm on full frame that's not so important)
the 24mm is more expensive, and I'm still not sure how good it is; and they don't have a 50mm; for those focal lengths, consider the canon non-L zooms: the 24mm f/2.8 and 50mm f/1.4 are very nice lenses (unlike the non-L 28mm and 35mm, for example, which are too soft for my taste)
much more here:
http://www.similaar.com/foto/equipment/us_lensc.html#samyangalso, you'll need a lot more stuff: a loupe, microphone and recorder, lights, reflectors, etc
http://www.similaar.com/foto/equipment/us_video.htmland ND filters:
http://www.similaar.com/foto/equipment/us_acc.html#filterfinally, about the wish list you posted:
H4n: I have it; great; never used the remote
glidetrack: I have the DIY igus version; great
followfocus: I wouldn't get one of those friction ones; I have the dfocus
marshall monitor: never used one, but they say they're great; not always convenient, and for color rendition the LCD in the camera is more accurate, so you'll still need a loupe, I think
tripod: as stated above, I went e-images 7060, and I think it's better than that
pico dolly: never used one, but it seems somewhat useful (maybe not so much if you're already getting the glidetrack)
backpack: that's the one I have; great; I made some DIY foam job, which makes it even better
rode ntg2: a couple of years ago, there were some reports of issues when paired with the H4n; research that before you buy; I have the rode videomic, and I wouldn't buy it again if I was buying a mic today (it's not XLR); I haven't used it, but filmriot recommended a cheap shotgun mic recently:
http://www.similaar.com/foto/equipment/us_video.html#audio