I'm a woman with small hands so I'll respond from that perspective. If the 60D is too bulky for the OP's friend, and she asked for suggestions about DSLRs, then please take her at her word that she would like a DSLR and suggest she try the new SL1/100D or one of the Rebels.
And to the poster who noticed other women with small hands using larger cameras and lenses with ease, and suggested your friend try out the 60D some more, I'm going to observe that of course the OP's friend could use a 60D if she wanted to. But there is no "need" for her to get used to anything unless she want to. And, from the OP's letter, it sounds like she doesn't want to get used to the 60D--she's asking for some other suggestions.
I have both a T1i and a 6D. I love them both. I especially love the enhanced capabilities that the 6D provides me. It's my go to camera for many occasions. But, it's significantly bigger and heavier than my T1i. If I'm going to be out all day with a camera and I want a DSLR, and I don't need the 6D's capabilities, I'll take my T1i because it's lighter and fits my hands better.