Makes sense, and I do understand your viewpoint, Brian.
I somewhat disagree about the bokeh definition. Put another way, I agree that many people use the term that way, but many people use the word 'irregardless' or spell 'a lot' as one word...being common doesn't make it correct.
I still don't understand 'bad blur' in the context of sensor size - the 85L at f/1.2 on my 7D seems to produce good blur, both in quantity and quality. On FF, f/1.2 is often too thin a DoF anyway. As you said, for a given lens and aperture, you get more blur with FF, and that is 'pleasing'. Personally, I do care about quality/bokeh. For example, the 100-400mm at f/5.6 with a small, close subject (e.g. a songbird) can produce lots of OOF blur, but frankly, it doesn't look that good, highlights are jittery and 'nervous-looking' (subjective terms, I know - but then bokeh is subjective).
For the same shot, whether on FF or crop, the 70-200 II + 2x II TC (at 400mm f/5.6) produces a much nicer bokeh than the 100-400mm (at 400mm f/5.6). Come to think of it, that's a great illustration of my point - same DoF, same amount of OOF blur, but quality/bokeh is dependent on the lens.
In a perfect world, you'd want both a lot of OOF blur, and excellent bokeh. But it's a fact that at some apertures (i.e. f/2 and narrower on FF), you can get the same amount of OOF blur on APS-C. If that gives you DoF that's thin enough for your needs, then ideally you'd want that amount of blur to have the best quality possible - and that just might be on APS-C.
But hey - FF makes it easy, just open it right up and shoot away.
I certainly agree that the 1DIV is a great compromise. But it's still a compromise - for example, the contention that FF gives the 'best blur' and 1.6x gives 'bad blur'. The difference going from FF to APS-H is actually greater than the difference going from APS-H to APS-C. The DoF change is effectively linear, so if FF is good and 1.6x is bad, 1.3x is closer to bad than to good... Nevertheless, I agree that we won't get any further discussing it. At some point, I'll try to post a couple of test shots (different bodies, same lens, same framing and DoF, and see if there's a detectable difference in bokeh.
I do hear you on the loss of crop with the 1D X - that's why it's replacing my 5DII but I'm keeping my 7D.