Putting all that together, I guess I don't have a good option without the updated 100-400, Gah ...
... at first, I thought about waiting for the 100-400ii, too, but then people explained to me that it'll likely cost double of the mk1, so that's out of the question for me. *If* there ever is a mk2. From what I understand, maybe the Sigma 120-300/2.8 sounds the best choice for you - as always, it's a tradeoff between weight, cost & iq.
Concerning tc and f8 af: You can always get a Kenko tc (dgx) which somehow manages to fool the camera into af'ing though exif data etc. is correct. However, on my 60d the single point af really suffers w/ f8, and for multi-point af there are too usually few af points, I guess it'll be the same for your old Rebel.