I even tried HP and still some were ok and some were bad but I was fighting the paid photographer for shots. Surprisingly she shot all night with some Uwa that looked like a fish eye by tamron on a Nikon d7000 she just shot without looking like it was a weapon. Am I trying too hard is that not what composition requires you to actually look thru the viewfinder?
It's probably just a misunderstanding of your words but I am assuming you just mean that the paid photog was getting in your shots and not the other way around right? You weren't actually getting in the paid photographer's way? Because if you were - you were screwing with someones living for no good reason. If you mess up your pride is hurt and you write on an internet forum. If they mess up it costs them money / reputation / future income. You don't have to be impressed by them or even their photography. It's just courtesy.
I understand. I feel attacked here. I am just trying to get better at photography as it is my passion and hopefully want to do it professionally at some point. I did respect her and stayed out of her way as much as possible. It just felt like everytime I wanted to just get those few candids she was there or I was in her way. She said no flashing when i'm flashing so I had to do it without a flash. I was there helping watch my two kids and the ceremony so pics were hard to concentrate on. I just took a few here and there. Unfortunately the only ones that turned out good where the bride and groom. The wife is now mad and said all the one's I was meant to take of the kids were bad. I was respecting the professional that is why I did not get the shots I wanted. Very frustrating to hear it on this forum and from the wife. Maybe this is not my calling.
Don't think that. If she really wanted a 2nd shooter, she should have gotten a photographer with a second shooter. Take this as a big learning experience, and unfortunately with some lessons on what not to do, but that's often how we get better at things.
Unfortunately you didn't get a chance to coordinate/talk with the photographer more before the ceremony, I'm sure she probably would have given you a few tips, and helped coordinate where you each would be, and what general photos she would try and get vs you would try and get. Don't let this stop you, it's just one experience in a long list of experiences to come.