Hey everybody,
thanks for your suggestions and helping me out. Special thanks to Gnocchi and TeT who provided me perfect samples of what I was looking for - Huge thanks to you guys!
You might be better off with a full frame or switching to SONIKON
I did not explain my situation completely, sry for that. Let me explain

I already have a Fuji E1 with a 18-55 (fantstic lens) for when I need a lot of dynamic range which I use most of the time for landscapes and fun. Got that combo second hand for a great price. The Fuji Lenses I'd need to replace my 70-200 f4 (non IS) and 50mm 1.8 with are way out of my pricerange. Plus it is always great to have a DSLR at hand for Studio / Portrait work. Nikon would be possible but I'd lose a lot of money selling my gear and the Nikon Lenses are more expensive - plus there is really nothing wrong with the performance of my Canon Lenses, I love them.
Furthermore I think it is only temporarily that Canon lags behind in terms of DR (and that stupid 19 Point AF) and I do not want to have to think about switching systems again once they catch up.
Full Frame is interesting indeed. I'd lose the 18-55 which I really like (please dont laugh) and would have to replace that with a 24-whatever which would cost another 600€ plus around 800€ for upgrading from 70D to 6D. 1400€ for upgrading is too expensive. Especially since I have the Fuji for high DR.
The question I had was more like:
Whats the best Canon body for me to use my Canon Lenses with without completely sacrificing DR
First of all: You've done AFMA adjustment in their 70D?
Yes I have. It's not that the focus is off, but its inconsistent. Ive sent it to Canon with a very detailed description, sample pics and they couldn't find a problem. Focus is way off on more than 50% of the shots with primes - its not usable. I had similar problems with my old 7D and assumed they would have fixed it after 5 years in the 70D (they didn't).
I had already begun questioning my technique but everytime I grab a Nikon or Canon with the old 9 Point AF everything is spot on perfect!
And the Digic5 camera, the M seems to be a stop cleaner than my Digic4 cameras (that is, iso1600 on my M is similar to iso800 from any of my Digig4 cameras) which have all been absolutely interchangable in terms of the noise at the same settings.
If you are pushing the DR in post this may have a bearing for you.
I use this example because the sensor in each of my cameras is apparently the same, with the processor being different. It's maybe a better comparison than two cameras with different sensors (like the 600D and the 70D)
I've never used the SL1, but if the 18MP / Digic 5 combo sensor works as well in that camera as in the M1 then it is a definite step up over the 18MP / Digic 4 combo.
I think you are on to something. Digic 5 might have a lot of influence on the noise in the shadows.
I have done some further research and on http://www.imaging-resource.com/ found the following DR ratings:
600D 10,2 (Digic 4)
650D 11,1 (Digic 5)
700D 11,1 (Digic 5)
100D 11 (Digic 5)
70D 11,7 (Digic 5)
7DII 11,8 (Digic 6), but out of price range and i don't need the performance.
Apparantly its the Digic 5 which allows shadows to be pushed a lot more. (Cooking the raw files?). That also underlines my findings that the 600D in my samples shot is not great for pushing shadows.
(Also interesting is that according to DxO, the 600D has 0,3 better DR than either 700D or 100D - which is utter nonsense. Shadows look awful on the 600D.)
If you can, I would wait for a comprehensive test of the 750 & 760D
The sensors do look tempting, but they have the 19 Point %/"§/%$! AF. Maybe wait a few weeks/months and check for users reporting problems...
The SL1 isn't going to be your DR monster
It doesn't have to be, as long as it's not terribly awful
So what did I find out?
The sample TeT provided was taken in strong daylight and the 100D is absolutely fine for pushing the shadows 1-2 stops in harsh light. Thats plenty and a good performance I am happy with.
Gnocchi did provide me with a very beautiful pic (see attachment) thats the perfect test for my kind of shooting (strong backlight). I edited it in my style and applied some NR in Lightroom (20 luminance + some color). What I do find is that the 100D is completely free of banding and a huge step up from the 600D (more so than the DR rating would suggest). Yes it does get noisy when pushing the shadows, but there is no banding and noise is "beautiful" (very simliar to 70D). When you look at the shadows in that pic (engines, cockpit and bottom of the boat) you can see that a bit more DR would be useful (esp around the engines), but im fine with that and I don't think the 70D would make a huge difference here. The image as a whole looks good and I'm fine with the noise.
Worth noting is that i think the image could have been taken with +1/3 maybe +2/3 more exposure, lowering the stress on the shadows and sacrificing only minor detail in the colors around the sun. (which are lost to some extend anyway due to converting to sRGB).
Overall I am happy with the results of the 100D. I think it will be a great gap-filler until the 80D comes along or maybe wait what the 750D/760D users will have to say about the AF. But first I will wait for my 70D to come back from service again and give it another try.
Thanks again for helping me out and all the great tips you guys came up with.