NancyP said:
First of all - what are you photographing? Pick appropriate focal length for your subject, then go for fast aperture. You have a huge number of choices: 50 or 85 f/1.2 or f/1.4, 135 f/2, 200 f/2.8.
I was dealing with the blur-focal-aperture myths a little while ago when I expanded my lens line. What I found was you have to know (sort of) how far is you object AND the background. The absolute blur is based on object distance, the separation of the background, f length and f/ number. The relative blur (respect to the entire frame) adds the angle of view into the chart. Basically, the closer the object, the shorter f is used; the closer the background, the shorter f is needed. BUT, the shorter f is used, the crowed the frame COULD be (because of the large angle of view). When f and f/ are known, the RATIO of the object size to the separation distance determine the blur.
For 50/1.4 and 85/1.8, at head shot (1ft) and 5ft in front of the background (1:5), 100/2 and 50/1.4 have same amount of blur, and 85/1.8 is 3.5% better of the blur size. So they are the same, but 100/2 should be more appealing because the background is less messy.
Here are the ratio-cut for these three lens of absolute blur on a crop sensor:
at 1:12, 100=85=14% more blur than 50
at 1:5, 100=50=3.5% more than 85
at 1:4, 50=85=4% more than 100
Keep in mind the relative blur which is the look-like blur that I think matters to the final feeling has to do with the background cleanness. (ex. bushes vs wall).
I tested this finding with my 20/2, 50/1.8, 85/1.4 and 200/2. So I can tell you it all depends on the situation.
David