Surely you've considered selling some of your gear to offset the cost of the 85L. So, sell gear you want to keep on Ebay to yourself, using an alias.
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Has anyone else been shut down?
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Ah yes...grasshopper...let me show you the path to bliss.
1) Surrender any idea of "ruling" a roost or anything else. That is a path that only leads to discord and misery.
2) Separate Checking accounts is the first step on your journey. Happily accept more than half the responsibility for household expenses. Separate checking accounts are the foundation of harmony in all things.
3) Announce and acknowledge the purchase of one white lens. As long as you are never seen with more than one white lens in your bag you won't be unmasked.
4) Always have Fed Ex hold your packages for pickup at the FedEx-Kinkos store. Boxes sitting on the front porch raise suspicions.
5) All these things will help with concealment and misdirection, but they will not lead to freedom and bliss. That requires a much longer and more perilous journey. But having safely arrived at the other side, I can tell you it is well worth it. Let me tell you my tale, so that you may learn from the Zen master.
When we were first married, my wife knew nothing about cameras and I was ignorant of birds.
Slowly, she began to teach me the way of the bird, and I began to lay the trap for her.
It began with a superzoom point and shoot: "I think you will enjoy this camera. It will take better pictures than your phone and with the zoom, you can get in closer, although the quality might not be ideal."
And with that, we were on the path. She found the little point and shoot convenient and while action shots weren't ideal, she was able to get in close enough to identify small birds.
Next came a superzoom with a viewfinder: "Here this will be easier to spot smaller subjects." I was giving her a first taste of the drug.
Next came a T3i. "Here, now you can change lenses and get better quality pictures."
Shortly after, I purchased the 70-300 "L" freeing up my Tamron for her. "Go ahead and keep this lens with your camera, then you will have it when you need it."
She didn't realize it, but the spider was already calling to the fly.
The T3i was followed by a 70D -- easier to focus on those birds. And, here, why don't you use this push-pull 100-400 sometimes.
At that point, she was doomed. Next came the 100-400 II and the Sigma 150-600 Contemporary. She hardly cringed at those purchases -- after all, I said, it was just updating the 100-400 and selling the old one and the 150-600 was inexpensive and would allow us both to shoot at the same time.
Fast forward to today. She has an 80D (and I will get her a 7DIII when it comes out) and monopolizes the 100-400 (be forewarned, this is one price you will pay).
But, the payoff has been beyond my wildest dreams. I have freely announced that "someday" I hope to purchase one of those big-ass lenses we see so frequently when we are out shooting. She laughs at the idea of her husband having "big equipment" but there is hardly a flinch. She is hooked. And, I have arrived at the promised land.
1) Surrender any idea of "ruling" a roost or anything else. That is a path that only leads to discord and misery.
2) Separate Checking accounts is the first step on your journey. Happily accept more than half the responsibility for household expenses. Separate checking accounts are the foundation of harmony in all things.
3) Announce and acknowledge the purchase of one white lens. As long as you are never seen with more than one white lens in your bag you won't be unmasked.
4) Always have Fed Ex hold your packages for pickup at the FedEx-Kinkos store. Boxes sitting on the front porch raise suspicions.
5) All these things will help with concealment and misdirection, but they will not lead to freedom and bliss. That requires a much longer and more perilous journey. But having safely arrived at the other side, I can tell you it is well worth it. Let me tell you my tale, so that you may learn from the Zen master.
When we were first married, my wife knew nothing about cameras and I was ignorant of birds.
Slowly, she began to teach me the way of the bird, and I began to lay the trap for her.
It began with a superzoom point and shoot: "I think you will enjoy this camera. It will take better pictures than your phone and with the zoom, you can get in closer, although the quality might not be ideal."
And with that, we were on the path. She found the little point and shoot convenient and while action shots weren't ideal, she was able to get in close enough to identify small birds.
Next came a superzoom with a viewfinder: "Here this will be easier to spot smaller subjects." I was giving her a first taste of the drug.
Next came a T3i. "Here, now you can change lenses and get better quality pictures."
Shortly after, I purchased the 70-300 "L" freeing up my Tamron for her. "Go ahead and keep this lens with your camera, then you will have it when you need it."
She didn't realize it, but the spider was already calling to the fly.
The T3i was followed by a 70D -- easier to focus on those birds. And, here, why don't you use this push-pull 100-400 sometimes.
At that point, she was doomed. Next came the 100-400 II and the Sigma 150-600 Contemporary. She hardly cringed at those purchases -- after all, I said, it was just updating the 100-400 and selling the old one and the 150-600 was inexpensive and would allow us both to shoot at the same time.
Fast forward to today. She has an 80D (and I will get her a 7DIII when it comes out) and monopolizes the 100-400 (be forewarned, this is one price you will pay).
But, the payoff has been beyond my wildest dreams. I have freely announced that "someday" I hope to purchase one of those big-ass lenses we see so frequently when we are out shooting. She laughs at the idea of her husband having "big equipment" but there is hardly a flinch. She is hooked. And, I have arrived at the promised land.
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unfocused said:
That is one great story about your adventures wandering in the wilderness. I too, dear brother, believed I would cross over to the other side. I too, believed I would pass over the river into the land of milk and honey.Instead, that gleam on the horizon grew dark as I approached and turned into a stormy flood of water and mud. If only I had already purchased a 600 f/4L. Had I done that I could have looked far ahead and seen that the river I approached wasn't the Jordan at all. It is the river Styx that drowns portrait photogs and birders alike! Don't be tricked my brother! Get thee at the least a 600 f/4L so that you might see your way to glory. You've set no trap. No, the trap has been set for you! Run!
Get the Great White Whale now so that all others seem to be minnows afterwards. This is the path to enlightenment. Commit the greatest sin first, then all others become not so shocking. Then, perhaps, you will be allowed to strive through the pure waters of redemption.
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Unfocused, if my wallet were that deep, it would solve a lot more problems than just camera gear purchases...
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IglooEater said:
You'd be surprised at how shallow my wallet is.
We live in a 60-year-old house. I drive a seven-year-old truck. Live modestly. Don't drink. Don't subscribe to any premium channels. Couldn't care less about going to a pro-sports game or an overpriced concert. Buy every lens through the refurbished store when on sale and, pay for each lens/camera before I buy another. Just a matter of priorities.
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I met a little 19 year old girl in a camera store. She had more gear than I did.
When I found out she had a 4x5, I married her. That was 1974.
My son came home after school and saw the Big White in my office and said "well, there goes my college tuition."
On his birthday, I gave him my 40D and a few kit lenses.
I follow in my dad's footsteps.
After college graduation, my son married a girl that enjoys film photography.
We are all doomed.
When I found out she had a 4x5, I married her. That was 1974.
My son came home after school and saw the Big White in my office and said "well, there goes my college tuition."
On his birthday, I gave him my 40D and a few kit lenses.
I follow in my dad's footsteps.
After college graduation, my son married a girl that enjoys film photography.
We are all doomed.
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CanonFanBoy said:First, I thought I ran things in my castle. I thought wrong. The Queen informed me today that my lens buying days are over. I thought it rather rude as she did this while looking over my shoulder as I read the rumor thread about the 85L that is soon to be announced.
I've had a good run and got further along in the buying marathon than I ever thought I would. I am, however, already getting the shakes and sweats as the 85L announcement date draws ever closer.
I'd never buy a lens without the reviews and some time passing to see if it is all it is cracked up to be anyway, so will a cooling off period soften her iron fisted ruling?
Has anyone else been shut down?Whatever did you do? The tone was most disturbing.
No shoes, no dresses, no cosmetics, no new kitchen etc etc until your lens lust is satisfied! After all if you cannot have your toys why should she who must be obeyed?
If the bills are paid then anything left over is for your, or her, toys. If there is not enough left over then NO TOYS for either of you! Hence my "no dresses/cosmetics etc " comment. Men's toys are normally much more expensive so we have to be reasonable here - but Channel No.5 is hardly cheap!
As you may have guessed - I am single!
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KeithBreazeal said:
When I met her, she had WAY more camera gear than I did, and she deleloped slides and film, and printed! A match made in heaven, even though she did make me carry her 8X10
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Don Haines said:
Ah... 8x10
I spent the summer of '66 at Grant Studios in San Diego- all 8x10. Two words: contact prints.I did have a passing thought- "how do I get this out in the field?" Beastly.
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That describes me too, except that I'm in an apartment, and I only buy used. I don't smoke or drink, I don't have TV, period, the only pro sports game I've ever been to was because I was given the tickets for nothing. Last concert I went to was our local youth orchestra- I played second violin.unfocused said:
cheers to savings! Have to admit I've got an amazing camera combo, even if I don't have a house yet XD
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.I realize that this thread is mostly for fun, and is indeed a refreshing change of pace from the normal stuff, but I actually think what my wife and I do is pretty reasonable, and works for us really well.
We have multiple savings accounts for various (big ticket) things that we want to spend money on, things like "vacation", "house improvements", "new car",... you get the idea. And, we also have two extra accounts, one for her and one for me. We sat down one time and decided how to divide our monthly "savings" into all of the little accounts that we have, and we gave ourselves $200 each (per month) to go into our "individual" savings accounts.
I was very clear that my account is strictly for photography. Hers? She can do whatever she wants with it. Wanna buy an expensive new wardrobe? Go ahead! New shoes? Kick it! Some crazy nonsense from a designer furniture store? Go for it!
Me? I upgraded my 5D Classic to the 5D4 last year and the $3300 came from my savings account. Before that, I've been busy buying glass at a rate of about once per year before a somewhat long stretch to get to afford the new body. I skipped 5D2 and 5D3 (for various reasons), but I knew I'd upgrade to the 5D4 long before it came out.
My wife isn't a photographer, but she went with me when I got the camera at a local authorized dealer in person. She could tell how crazy excited I was about it, and she was happy for me.
When someone reacts to my explanation by saying that $200 is a lot of money, I usually ask them how much was their phone and cable bill last month.
The best part about this setup is it makes it easy to be honest not only with your partner, but with yourself as well!
P.S. We originally started with $100/mo each, but I quickly realized that wasn't going to be enough.
P.P.S It's amazing how much my wife can buy for what I spend on photography gear (and still have a bunch left in the bank).
We have multiple savings accounts for various (big ticket) things that we want to spend money on, things like "vacation", "house improvements", "new car",... you get the idea. And, we also have two extra accounts, one for her and one for me. We sat down one time and decided how to divide our monthly "savings" into all of the little accounts that we have, and we gave ourselves $200 each (per month) to go into our "individual" savings accounts.
I was very clear that my account is strictly for photography. Hers? She can do whatever she wants with it. Wanna buy an expensive new wardrobe? Go ahead! New shoes? Kick it! Some crazy nonsense from a designer furniture store? Go for it!
Me? I upgraded my 5D Classic to the 5D4 last year and the $3300 came from my savings account. Before that, I've been busy buying glass at a rate of about once per year before a somewhat long stretch to get to afford the new body. I skipped 5D2 and 5D3 (for various reasons), but I knew I'd upgrade to the 5D4 long before it came out.
My wife isn't a photographer, but she went with me when I got the camera at a local authorized dealer in person. She could tell how crazy excited I was about it, and she was happy for me.
When someone reacts to my explanation by saying that $200 is a lot of money, I usually ask them how much was their phone and cable bill last month.
The best part about this setup is it makes it easy to be honest not only with your partner, but with yourself as well!
P.S. We originally started with $100/mo each, but I quickly realized that wasn't going to be enough.
P.P.S It's amazing how much my wife can buy for what I spend on photography gear (and still have a bunch left in the bank).
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Gribok said:
That's actually very similar to what we do. I believe there is an important psychological benefit to these kinds of arrangements. Studies show that money is the number one thing that couples argue about. With this arrangement, you are partners in ordinary household expenses (split fairly), but each person has some autonomy over their own money and their own buying decisions. I know it may not work for everyone, but it works for us and it apparently works for you as well.
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ExodistPhotography
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CanonFanBoy said:Has anyone else been shut down?
I make money from my photography. So no my wife has not tried to shut me down. But in typical wifey fashion she does complain.. But I quick reminder of the new car in the drive and all the other perks she gets. Normally quiets her down for a day or so.. LOL..
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ExodistPhotography said:CanonFanBoy said:Has anyone else been shut down?
I make money from my photography. So no my wife has not tried to shut me down. But in typical wifey fashion she does complain.. But I quick reminder of the new car in the drive and all the other perks she gets. Normally quiets her down for a day or so.. LOL..
I once added up the cost of her horse and included pasture fencing, shelter, trailer, tools, care items, feed, vet bills, shoeing, etc. It was a bit depressing.
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In the end, it is not a question of the spouse putting the hold on purchasing anything. It is a question of income/expenditure/"saving for future/rainy-day". If that is satisfied, the extra can be set aside for purchase of any toy one desires, big whites, Bentley or vacation homes. True, the family should each have a fairly equal share of said fund. An LV here, a 2 carat diamond ring there should be a 1DXII plus a 200-400 with 1.4x!
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