Hi, KKCFamilyman!
I suppose you've become obsessed by something I'd call an "external" problem.
You read the reviews that are "bad" - or better call them "mediocre" and full of "disappointment".
And I must agree that I've expected more from the 24-105 Mark II. But I am still a happy - or even more happy - Mark I owner.
Because...
The original 24-105 was a really good - but not excellent - lens and so is the Mark II as well.
So what do you have to do now (IMO):
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[*]Forget about the reviews and simply use the lens. Go out, get used to and enjoy you new gear.
[*]Then consider if f/2.8 and even better IQ is more important to you than IS and the extra 35 mm reach
If yes ==> If you can afford and justify it, go for the 24-70/2.8 II
[*]If no ==> Then consider if smaller form factor and better macro functionality are worth the sacrifice of losing the extra 35 mm and additional money as I don't expect that this change will be a zero sum in costs.
If yes ==> If you can afford and justify it, go for the 24-70/4.0
[*]If no, stay/get happy with what you have now, because it is really good equipment

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Hope this helps you with your decision.