OK, I will try this another way. EV represents light intensity per unit area, and as you say, the numbers will look the same re f stop, speed, and ISO but here is the difference. If I use a 20 MP FF it will have pixels 2.5 times the size (area) of the pixels on a 20 MP APS-c (Canon) so each pixel will have more than a full stop of extra light to integrate than the APS camera. You will need make the aperture about 1-1/3 stops smaller on the FF to have the same amount of light hitting each pixel on the FF as you had before on the crop frame camera (you also have to turn up the ISO by 1-1/3 stops) At that point, magically, you will also have the same depth of field (and signal-to-noise) as you had with the larger aperture and lower ISO setting on the crop camera. Look up equivalency and read and read again until you understand what is going on. It is not intuitive until you take all the variables into account, but when you do, it is obvious and it really works.
The FF does come out ahead with high MP cameras because equivalently high MP crop cameras challenge lenses much more both in terms of design limits and diffraction limits. Shoot with an M6 II, a 90D or an R7 for while and you will see what I mean.
Guys, you all are overcomplicating this.
You are right. All of you.
But you're not listening what I'm saying.
Last time, then really, for mental sanity of all of us, I'm not answering anymore; everybody will be happy with its own idea.
I'm in a church, shooting the groom waiting for the bride; exposure is f2 1/125s 1600iso.
My colleague, that was outside for bride arrival, now enters the church for shooting bride entering, and asks me "man, what's the exposure in here?"
I answer "dude, exposure is f2 1/125s 1600iso", without caring what camera he has, what lens, etc.
He sets the exposure, starts shooting.
If needed, maybe he adjust f1.4 1/250s 1600iso if wants faster time for the entrance? Or he has a good camera at high iso, so goes f2 1/250s 3200iso?
Or maybe he just uses what I told him the EV was.
End of it.
The EV of the scene never changed. NEVER. He may have altered the triangle, but the exposure is still the same.
No one really cared about DR, SNR, perspective, etc. That's educational stuff. We're not doing a conference.
We're working.
What's the EV in here?
EV is as follows.
We work.
End of it.
The dot pitch of my sensor is totally irrelevant in the field, God almighty won't change light intensity in that church according to which one of us is shooting with which camera.
We use the same setting, he has an Aps and I have FF, so his SNR is worse then mine? Who cares, he needs to take a sharp, in focus and non-motion shot of the bride entering the scene, what do I or he care if his shoot has a little more noise?
Guys, really?
I'll go silent, if you can't agree on this, there's no point in continuing arguing; with all due respect, we do different things, people don't pay me for good pics, people pay me because I don't get caught changing battery or card during the ring exchange. No bride has ever told me that the SNR of my camera was not of her liking. Maths is a thing, working in the real world is another thing. No one of that is better then the other. But they're different things, still.