I'm afraid I cannot help with the particular problem with that lens, but I wouldn't be too quick to right off all third party lenses, or even Samyang lenses, because of one bad experience. Canon gear fails too. Look around CR and you will see plenty of people talking about problems they have had even with Canon's better gear. For example, I recall someone talking about an R6 failing not long after purchase becasue the IBIS unit failed, and some years I bought a 24-70 f/4L IS lens which was pretty poor out of the box (but very good after Canon serviced it). Don't get me wrong, my impression is Canon generally has very good quality control, and Canon may be a step above the third parties. That would certainly be the conventional wisdom. However, I do not have the data (does anyone? LensRentals maybe?) to know how Canon compares with other manufacturers (including Samyang), and in any event it is all consumer gear so there will certainly be some items which fail with any brand including Canon (and I don't read much into the conventional wisdom which gets echoed around the interwebs).
Anyway, FWIW I don't think you should feel stupid. You bought a cheaper (and relatively light) lens, which so far as I can tell is very good optically, and gave it a go. Maybe you have discovered it's not as good value as it might first seem, or maybe you have just been unlucky. Unless perhaps I hear a lot more reports of the Samang RF 85mm failing though, it is still the only RF 85mm I would be interested to buy if I had an R camera. I don't want the size or weight, or cost, of either of the RF 85L lenses, and I haven't seen or read anything about the RF 85 f/2 IS which has impressed me much (slow AF, only f/2, sharpness is fine but bokeh and overall rendering seems disappointing).
Best of luck sorting out the issue, however you decide to deal with it.