"Maximillian:
I really don't understand how bridal pairs can like something like that.
I told my wedding photographer to stay in the background and that this was the day for our guests and us to celebrate. It's more important to me to have a wonderful day then to have wonderful pics of that (less) wonderful day. (And our pictures were also great)
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docsmith:
Ha.....maybe this is becoming a thing. I was just at a wedding (as a guest as I am no pro) and kept noticing how close and intrusive the videographer was. Standing right in front of the alter as procession came in. So intrusive that the bridesmaids and groomsmen actually had to move around the videographer and separate early. Close enough to the cutting of the cake that I am surprised that they didn't get frosting on their lens. It all worked and I haven't heard the bride complain, but I felt for the photographer"
In recognition of my apparent non-status here, I try to minimize my presence whenever possible, but the op raises an issue I'm encountering all the more frequently as I shoot events. I generally shoot stills at events (parties, receptions, and so on...), and ALWAYS use a zoom (24-70, 24-105, 70-200). "Videographers" amateurs w/ cellies and p&s, and professionals are there and seem oblivious not just to me but to the interests of the other guests and even the principals of the events.
My results are not so affected thanks to my zooms and learning how to anticipate events, and the actions of these oblivious characters. Whenever possible I will try to talk things out with them beforehand, exchange cards, offer some collaboration, express my plans, but, for me, the last thing I want to do is ruin someone's event by getting in a hassle with guests or other hired guns; hence, anticipation.
I always get a planned flow from the hosts, organizers, and/or guests of honor, and this helps me avoid some hassle with other shooters.
The thing is, the uncle bobs and others don't necessarily always play by even the agreed-upon rules. Without getting into a fistfight I use the zooms, anticipation, and knowledge of the event to try to get there first, shoot, and move on so that the next can do the same. Ultimately, I suppose, despite all that, providence still plays a role...